Enter the Fly Lady

I struggle with housekeeping.  There, I said it.  One of my favorite jokes is that I am an excellent stay at home mom and a terrible housewife.  My mom was a bit of a tyrant when it came to keeping a clean house.  I think it was likely a combination of my Dad’s unrealistic expectations and my mother’s raging insecurities about what others would think.  But, it left me with a bitter taste in my mouth about housekeeping and no matter how much I wish my house looked put together and beautiful all the time, that just isn’t’ the case.  We also have two large Labradors and dogs are hairy.  Like for real.

But I have also come to a point in my life where I have a little extra space in my life. My daughter is in college and my son is a junior in high school.  So motherhood at this point requires a little less of me and I am moving into the next phase of my life.  As a stay at home mom this is absolutely terrifying.  Who am I without being their mom dominating my landscape?  Well, I am not going to sit around.  I am going to figure it out.  Mid life is scary for everyone, no matter your circumstances.  I forge forward on this adventure with an open mind and heart.

There are many aspects of my life that I would like to improve and my home is one of them.  I am also trying very hard to be patient and loving with myself.  This means meeting myself where I am at in each moment.  For housekeeping, enter the Fly Lady.

I have explored many cleaning systems over the years and have several cleaning YouTubers I follow.  The one I keep coming back to is Fly Lady.  Now, the system is complicated and overwhelming if looked at as a whole.  This is likely the reason I have left it so many times.  In the past when things got overwhelming I would just bail, beat myself up as the lazy loser I was sure I was and lay down.  This behavior has led to all sorts of issues and this is the main thing I am addressing and the results of this effort are showing up in all sorts of places.

So, I am making space for the Fly Lady in my life because if you really listen, what she is saying is that it doesn’t have to be perfect, that doing something half way is better than not doing something at all and that this doesn’t have to rule your life.  I am taking it step by step, small chunks at a time and when I falter, I am just taking a moment to love on myself and then showing up for myself to keep going. 

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